Chapter 4: Stress Management and Sleep 80 Table 4.1. Common Stressful Events Among College Students Point Value Life Event Point Value Life Event 87 Death of a spouse 50 Change to a different line of work 77 Marriage 50 Change to a new school 77 Death of close family member 48 Major change in social activities 76 Divorce 47 Major change in responsibilities at work 74 Marital separation 46 Major change in the use of alcohol 68 Death of a close friend 45 Revision of personal habits 68 Pregnancy or fathering a child 44 Trouble with school administration 65 Major personal injury or illness 43 Work at a job while attending school 62 Fired from work 42 Trouble with in-laws 60 Broken marital engagement or steady relationship 42 Change in residence or living conditions 58 Sex difficulties 41 Change in or choice of a major field of study 58 Marital reconciliation 41 Change in dietary habits 57 Major change in type and/or amount of recreation 40 Outstanding personal achievement 57 Major change in self-concept or selfawareness 38 A lot more or a lot less trouble with your boss 56 Major change in the health of a family member 36 Major change in church activities 54 Engaged to be married 34 Major change in sleeping habits 53 Major change in financial state 33 Trip or vacation 52 Mortgage or loan for purchase of less than $10,000 30 Major change in eating habits 50 Enter college 26 Major change in the number of family get-togethers 50 Gain of new family member 22 Found guilty of minor violations of the law 50 Major conflict in or change in values Emotional Intelligence and Relational Wisdom Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to manage one’s own emotions, communicate emotional states to others, and pick up on the emotional conditions of others (Walters & Byl, 2021; Goleman, 2005). Possessing these abilities help to improve productivity, life satisfaction, and relationships in the workplace, school, and at home (Sande, 2020). Relational wisdom refers to the ability to discern the emotions, interests, and abilities both in yourself and others; to interpret them in the light of Scripture; and to use this insight to manage your responses and relationships successfully (Sande, 2020a; Sande 2020b). In
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