Torch, Spring 1996

s one who was born wired for partici– pation in a good discussion or debate, I found that the ability to argue seemed to come naturally. Along life's way I learned some of the tricks of the trade through observation and experience, including the idea that what was most important was to "come out on top" in the discussion. Even though I was a Christian endeavoring to live for Christ, exhibiting Christian character when exchanging ideas and arguments was something I still needed to learn. I was 16 when I qualified for a place on my high school debate team. My first opportunity for 12 Torch formal debate took place at another prestigious high school. It was an event I will always remember. I was well prepared, aggressive and forceful in presenting my arguments and counter arguments, showing no mercy or consideration whatsoever for my opponent. When the debate ended, I thought it was pretty obvious who had won- me. I saw my coach walking toward me, and I anticipated his praise. He said, "Son, you won the argument." And then he said, "But you lost your opponent, the judges, and the audience." I was stunned. Finally, he said, "If you remember nothing else, remember this. He who is well prepared, presents his case effectively, treats people with respect and loves them, wins." That afternoon was a life– changing experience for me. What I learned was this : essential to all communication, discussion, and debate is not only the content and the ability to reason well, but the character and attitude I display and the way I treat my opponents . I discovered that more is communicated by the latter than the former. In observing Christians as they present and/or defend the gospel today, especially to people with different religious persuasions, I often see the goal being to "come out on top." Although this goal is rarely, if ever, verbalized, it appears to be present in practice. Why is it that so many Christians