Torch, Summer 2001

an excellent little paperback on keeping love in marriage; I think it will be a blessing to you if you read it. The responsibility for attentiveness extends beyond the husband and encompasses the home and family. I Timothy 5:14 and Titus 2:5 say the wife is to be a keeper of the home. She’s to be the keeper of the family. Some of my Bible scholar friends believe those verses mean that the wife should not work outside the home. They think that a woman can’t obey those verses if she works outside the home. I disagree. I believe there are wives who work outside of the home who take care of their families and home wonderfully. There are other wives who don’t work outside the home and yet don’t do a very good job of taking care of the husband, family, or house. So, the issue is not whether you work outside the home. The important thing is to understand that your family should be your highest priority, 12 TORCH / Summer 2001 beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master.” Attractiveness, including physical attractiveness, is important. But, although important, Peter says inner attractiveness is most important. Developing your character and values and becoming the kind of woman described in Proverbs 31 is what it means to truly be attractive. Chaste, modest, gentle—all are characteristics modeled by Jesus Christ. Another biblical instruction to wives is to be attentive. You will see this in I Peter 3:6 and again in Ephesians 5:33, “... each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” The godly wife will hold her husband in high esteem and communicate that to him. Men have a tendency to conceal what’s going on inside. The wise wife tries to get to know her husband; to find out what really makes him tick. I recommend Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages , which suggests how couples can communicate to each other their mutual admiration and respect. I also recommend to ladies the book Letters to Karen by Charlie W. Shedd. This is just The Submissive Spouse Continued on page 14 Are You Equipped? A bortion, capital punishment, and euthanasia ... struggles over the sanctity of life are being fought daily in America’s culture war. Where can you find biblical resources that equip you to face the many sanctity of life controversies tearing at our society? The CDR Radio Network is pleased to announce a new online bookstore which offers numerous resources for helping you find biblical answers to life’s questions. For example, you can purchase Dr. Paul Dixon’s audio cassette series “Sanctity of Life,” which presents biblical guidelines on capital punishment, abortion, suicide, and euthanasia, or order Dr. Dixon’s “Preparing Leaders for the 21st Century” series. The bookstore can also aid you through its plethora of cassette and CD messages from favorite speakers such as Joe Stowell and David Jeremiah. Books, Bibles, music, and videos are available to assist you, and, coming soon, you will be able to order any past chapel message online! To browse the bookstore or to order, visit www.cdrradio.com and click on the bookstore button. You may also order by calling 1-800-333-0601 between 8 a.m. and 5 p.m., Monday through Friday. Visit www.cdrradio.com for a fresh look at biblical resources to equip you on life’s issues!